Q&A Topic: External Contrast

Today Certified Prosperity Guide Laura Crisci weighs in on the topic of: External Contrast

Question: How can I choose a better feeling thought when dealing with external contrast? When the kids are whining? When my partner is grumpy? I understand that letting others affect my vibration is preventing me from manifesting my desires - so how do I prevent it? Many, many thanks.

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Response from Laura Crisci, Certified Prosperity Guide, laura@lauracentral.com:

I think that there are many different ways to approach this common life experience. First, there is preparation. There is a tool from Abraham-Hicks called "Segment Intending." This involves setting your tone for the day as well as before stepping into each segment of your day and can be very useful in preempting any reactionary emotions. You will then walk into a situation with your tone already set and an expectancy for it to be matched. Second, if you find yourself being sucked into a vibration that is not what you wanted, in your awareness of that you can then reach for a thought that feels even just a little bit better than what you are experiencing in that moment and find your way back one better thought at a time. And third, if this is a common experience you can focus on (and journal about) things that you enjoy and appreciate about these people in your life during times that you are in a receptive mood and eventually that will become your dominant vibration about them and they will more naturally resonate with that expectancy when they are with you. Forth, make sure that you are practicing extreme self care so you are able to come from a positive and nurtured place yourself. The best gift you can give your family is being a truly happy parent and partner and you will have more patience and love to give. And last, a mantra of some kind is useful to keep you on center during the times you forget the truth of who you are and how wonderful life really is. Mine is "I have healthy kids and awesome hair and all is well." It has served me in virtually every circumstanceJ.

Comments

[Bev]

Thank you, Laura, for taking the time and trouble to answer my question. Although I have tried 'scripting', I haven't used segment intending for specific circumstances. I think you hit the nail when you said "useful in preempting any reactionary emotions"... of course, they are MY reactions; not my families - it's MY vibration that needs cleaning; not theirs. Ah ha! And your mantra is pretty awesome. Thanks again.

[Ruth Greenwood]

One thing that seems to help me (and make me feel like a brilliant spin doctor) is to say to myself:

"How wonderful it is that my family members feel so loved and comfortable with me that they feel safe to share all of their feelings with me."

And when I didn't want to be so upset after my son's physical problems, it took me a while but I found strength and joy in thinking, "Thank you for giving me family members I love so deeply and care so much about" (and soon after, he began getting stronger, and we grew even closer together as we'd go through his exercises).

I don't think we're meant not to be affected by our family members...but it's powerful to view the love in it. Thanks for this helpful answer!!!

[Ulla]

I have fond it useful to allow the outer world become a mirror for my own inner circumstance and release from that point.

The Sedona Method and the Cleanup Procedur has helped me release one layer at time. The Cleanup Procedur is Composed of three groups of questions, Each focusing on a separate want: first control, then approval, and finally security/survival. Follow These basic steps and guidlines as you work.

This steps in combination with listen on positive affirmation on CD has given me tremendous result that has gained my entirely family and our relationship has deeply improved. http://tinyurl.com/y534ng

I found it very important of letting go of the old emotions and to fill in with new healthy energy. So the above is my recipe that has worked and work for me and my family.

Regards
Ulla

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